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December 30, 2010

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty,

to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,

this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die.

Sometimes they walk away.

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met,

our desire fulfilled, their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to

share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it, it is real. But only for a season!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build

upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have

learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season

or a lifetime

This came to me as a forwarded email from a friend. Since I am on leave from work these days, I have started reading each and every email before ‘marking all read’. This one touched a chord since I felt that each and every word sounded so true.

When someone is in your life for a REASON –

and that reason can be both positive or negative. I believe that the scientific principle that each and every action has an equal reaction is true even for day-to-day life. One good deed begets another. If you experience a bad day, it means that you must have done a bad deed to some one else. If someone enters your life for a reason, good or bad, it means you deserve whatever that person adds to your life. At times, when you feel lonely, you make a new friend. At times, when you are looking for love desperately, you find a new date. At times, when you are complacent with yourself, someone will appear in your life just to make it a living hell. Combating such a situation forces one to judge himself in a newer light. Such people also exit from your life in a similar sudden manner – once the ‘reason’ is over.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON –

and that season will change your life even if in the slightest way. You will meet such people in different walks of life. I have met them at various junctures of life and they have left me enriched in ways more than one. 

Some people come into your life for a LIFETIME –

The more the number of such people, the more blessed you are. In today’s fast-paced life, one finds very few people who would actually remain with you for more than a reason or a season. But one takes a lifetime to identify such friends. Truly blessed are those who recognise them early and cherish them throughout their lives.


I have encountered all the three kinds of people in my life and I have attempted to learn something from all of them. I do not regret even the worst of such encounters as I believe that every experience contains some valuable life lesson.  

4 Comments leave one →
  1. December 30, 2010 9:01 pm

    T an extent, I agree with your thoughts ….. but you know, I’ve had experiences when people have come back into my life, after a long time….and I don’t really where to fit them…my first friend, for example….she was gone from my life when I was seven, we met again a dozen years later and are great friends now. Also, the same person can be very nice and very mean to you, at different points of time in your life…can come to your life for a number of reasons, no? And someone comes for a season may also come for a reason, no? I personally think its futile to classify relationships….because you can only classify relationships after they are over, and in my opinion, there really isn’t any point in looking back at such relationships. Only makes you feel horrible.

    By the way, you’ve expressed your thoughts quite beautifully here…wish you’d write more on this topic though.

    Just one suggestion – why don’t you use ‘herself’ instead of ‘himself’ (and the like)? Would make your posts more personal…more you.

    Its nice to know that you connected with this forwarded email as much as I did. I agree with you, that all people come into your life for a reason – whether for a day or a season or lifetime that time only tells.

  2. December 30, 2010 9:02 pm

    Correction: To an extent…

  3. December 31, 2010 5:13 pm

    good one madam!…the fwd is indeed so true and you have put forth the gist of it quite succinctly.

    The sooner we realize, who is for a reason and who is for a season, the better it would be for us to move on with life and not sit and lament their loss. I guess this comes only by experience.

    And offcourse, the people who r for a lifetime….u can only be sure of that while u r on ur death bed 🙂

    Thanks for sharing such wonderful thoughts. Keep writing!

    I am with you on every point 🙂 Thanks for dropping by 🙂

  4. December 31, 2010 8:46 pm

    wonderfully written. people do come in our life for a reason and if that reason is good enough, they stay. 🙂

    once again, wonderfully written. hope i could come up with stuff like that because i am still facing a hard time getting subscribers and comments.

    I also took quite sometime to get subscribers and loyal readers; you keep on writing quality stuff and soon, you will have followers. 🙂

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