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Bengali Women are the Best!

January 7, 2010

While taking a leisurely sip of my morning cup of chai on a nice chilly Sunday morning, I opened the Metro supplement of The Telegraph and found an article on 50 reasons not to marry a Bengali Woman! What the ^%*#$ !

Being the quintessential Bengali woman and the lawyer that I am, I couldn’t resist making out a defence on behalf of all the Bengali woman out there. For 50 such reasons, I can cite 100 reasons to disprove the case. Some of the reasons apply to woman generally and hence I treat them with indifference; some of them are downright stupid, which are again ignored. But some are serious allegations and demand special attention. I have first copied the reason from the newspaper and then given my take on it. Also click on the link given above to read the main story.

#1. She will fight with you but treasure all signs of being married to you. So she will wear that shankha pola and sindur with jeans, and that gold-covered loha with her cocktail dress. She has adopted the mehndi and chooda too. And the mangalsutra is a must slip-on every time she steps out of the house.

It goes on to show how pativrata a Bengali woman can be; the male chauvinistic society has always preferred such demure ladies as wives and here she is, right in front of you.

#2. And yet for all the fighting, her “modern woman” airs are gone after marriage. “O bolechhe” is the final word then. In private they snub, in public they idolise to an uncomfortable degree.

Well, how is that a negative point? She is being the best wife you can ever ask for! She follows the rule of “criticise in private and praise in public”.

#3. She tries too hard not to look Bengali. She will never have the Punjabi oomph, or the south Indian sensuality. But she will persist in trying. What’s more, she will tell you with a big smile that so and so storewallah thought she was a Punjabi today. Contradict at your own risk!

A big fat lie! What’s the use of Punjabi oomph which turns into layers of fat after 4 years of marriage and South Indian sensuality which gets lost in litres of coconut oil! Bengali women have the grace, charm and poise much beyond such petty hotness; she has the ability to kill with her eyes ;-) And such a Bengali woman shall never be happy being identified as a Punjabi!

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#4. Like the accomplished women of Pride and Prejudice, they all sing Rabindrasangeet and Nazrulgeeti, dance, paint and recite poetry. God help you if she takes her talent seriously

Hello! It shows she is talented… and if she takes her talent seriously, you will have a celebrity in your family, since any accomplished singer, dancer, author or poet is an instant star in Bengal.

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#5. She will never get along with your mother. It is a matter of principle.

All the Bengali men out there, at least be happy that here’s at last someone who has taken all the revenge that you secretly wished, against someone who made you recite notes ten minutes before exam, discussed your stomach ailments to an embarrassing extent with strangers, packed luchi alur dam as tiffin when all you wanted was chicken sandwich and made you wear muffler and monkey cap to school in winter, when rest of the class used to turn up in half-sweaters. Worship this diva!

#6. They will pet and spoil their husbands like overgrown babies and then they’ll ask you not to be a mamma’s boy. The truth is they’d rather you be a “wifey’s pet”.

As if Bengali men hate fawning! They enjoy all the attention very much, thank you. She asks you not to be a mamma’s boy for one simple reason – you possibly can’t be a wifey’s pet and a mamma’s boy simultaneously; it will be injurious to your own health. And also combine it with the other points here and you will have a perfect caring wife.

#7. Her brown nail polish, and brown lipstick.

That’s because it suits her dusky skin tone; at least she is intelligent enough not to streak her hair blonde like some women from other parts of the country. She knows what’s good for her.

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#8. Saris are a must on all occasions and most unattractive at times. It’s invariably a taant or a dhakai in the mornings, which fluffs up around her already generous middle and makes her look dumpy and unsexy. It isn’t as sexy as a crepe or vibrant as a Kanjeevaram.

The maker of this statement hasn’t seen a Bengali woman, in a crisp tangail or a taant or a dhakai sari, which lends a beauty missing in the thin crepe and loud Kanjeevarams. Who says, one has to wear clinging and colourful saris to show off her carves? A Bengali woman knows what is her trump card ;-)

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#9. Her cotton printed maxis. Or the way she drapes a dupatta on it to get the door.

Men – admit that a maxi is the most convenient garment during the *ahem* act; you don’t even need to struggle with *uh* drawstrings ;-) Times are changing nowadays; skirts, pyjamas, t-shirts have entered the everyday wardrobe of a Bengali women, too. So, don’t despair.

#10. She will force you to make the morning tea and the afternoon tea on weekends. Unlike a proper Indian wife who’d know that it’s her job to do so!

Men! its just tea! so run fast and make it for her… At least you are spared from cooking proper meals on weekends and saved from the plight faced by husbands belonging to other communities. Where else will you find such considerate wife?   

#11. She is dominating. She will control the colour of your underwear if she had her way.

First part is true; unless you are man enough, you will suffer her dominating ways throughout your life; but the second part? Bengali women are not that jobless! They would rather shop for their matching blouses and petticoats than your underwear! C’mon, since when has the colour of men’s underwear become important?

#12. She prefers stability over risk. So she wants you to settle for a fixed deposit over the stock market and a good MNC over a “start-up with possibilities”. And then complain when those risks taken by someone else pay off.

I agree, traditionally Bengali women have been known to favour the Government employee as a prospective husband; these days, its the Engineers. But let me assure all you men – its just a trend like anything else. So the chartered accountant or the entrepreneur out there, wait for your turn patiently :-)

#13. The really beautiful ones leave for Bollywood. The ones who are left behind are not worth marrying AND #14. She is supposed to be a mix of Bipasha’s oomph and Konkona’s intellect. Wake up, kid!

Lie! lie! lie! Not all beautiful and intelligent ones leave for Bollywood; some also become lawyers ;-) and Economics teachers (like mine in school).

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#15. She’s sexy. There something about those eyes and the dusky skin. She looks like she has promise. But she seldom lives up to it.

Only if you are an unfortunate man, will your wife not live up to the promise. Most Bengali women do :-) If she doesn’t, then something must have been wrong with the position of the stars during your birth :-)

#16. All you can do is ogle discreetly. She is a firm practitioner of mind over matter. She’s the quintessential tease.

Now you know the reason why you fell for her hook, line and sinker; the spark was always kept alive ;-)

#17. And yet, despite it all, she is just too good for you. Sorry men.

Now this is how an article is signed off, when written by Bengali women :-) Finally you have the best proof of smartness of Bengali women :-)

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Images are sourced from Google images; the images of the few celebrity Bengali women here doesn’t mean that this is the end to the list – for one celeb, there are at least a minimum of 50 similarly beautiful, intelligent, smart and independent women among the common public :-) 

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115 Comments leave one →
  1. January 7, 2010 8:22 pm

    Absolutely loved this post. Speaks a lot about us =) You go girl! *hugs* I’m proud to be a bengali. xD

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 7, 2010 8:49 pm

      Hey, thanks for visiting my blog… the comment was fast!

      Cheers to Bong Women power ;-)

  2. Bella permalink
    January 7, 2010 8:32 pm

    I know. I AM proud to be a bengali myself. Look at all those beauties..so bright and yet so simple :D

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 7, 2010 8:50 pm

      Agree.. agree… and you yourself are one fine example :-)

    • prabhasish saikia permalink
      May 1, 2014 3:21 pm

      i love yu bella

  3. Shouvik permalink
    January 7, 2010 9:14 pm

    the replies seem quite hardcore :) while I hated the offending article myself and totally agree with the heading of this one, I wonder whether the saving grace, viz. the concluding flourish of the offending article, while pretty much the truth, hasn’t been put in as an afterthought by the 2 authors just so they aren’t lynched as traitors to their own kind, aside from liars :D

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 7, 2010 9:32 pm

      Thanks Shouvik :-) I doubt the ending was an afterthought… It was just another way of taking a further dig at men :-)

  4. January 7, 2010 9:34 pm

    I don’t have a lot of Bengali friends, but the ones I have are wonderful people (beautiful, talented and funny women, to be exact). There’s never a dull moment! I love your responses to that article. Well done! :)

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 7, 2010 9:39 pm

      Welcome and thank you so much :-)

  5. sreerupa permalink
    January 8, 2010 12:21 am

    good comebacks. seriusly, this is what I thought. How most of the the qualities mentioned weren’t bad, and the rest were untrue! :)
    but good post!!!!

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 8, 2010 10:07 am

      thanks dear :-) if you have anything to add, pls do so :-)

  6. Gaurav permalink
    January 8, 2010 12:31 am

    too good a post…awesome!!!

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 8, 2010 10:08 am

      thank you so much :-) am sure you agree with all my viewpoints, don’t you?

  7. January 8, 2010 6:13 am

    Haha… lovely…

    Got here when a friend forwarded me your link.

    All I can say is any man who thinks women in a sari are not sexy is not a man.

    And I am YET to meet ANY bengali girl who feels proud if she was mistaken for a Punjabi.

    *wink*

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 8, 2010 10:19 am

      Welcome here… and I second your opinion :-) But in the article, I believe the authors were trying to say that only the traditional Bengali sari is not sexy, which is entirely untrue :-)

      • Gubla permalink
        May 10, 2010 1:57 pm

        WHY have u ppl made the use of the word ‘sexy’ so rampant in describing feminine beauty !! ?? I reckon this was not the case a decade or so back and this is an attempt to ape the westerners. We do have our own sense of modesty, decency and beauty and need not borrow notions from other cultures – this I say with due respect for other cultures and out of self esteem. PLEASE DO NOT GIVE AWAY ALL YOUR VIRTUES IN TRYING TO COPY OTHERS. A people with self esteem would always keep this in mind. They would value what they have.

  8. January 8, 2010 7:58 am

    JIOOO!!!

    WAT A PRESENTATION… kudos.

    @Haleem
    “And I am YET to meet ANY bengali girl who feels proud if she was mistaken for a Punjabi.”
    dude take off ur mask. u overlooked the author.

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 8, 2010 10:07 am

      thanks :-)

      let’s count out the authors of the article, they are either disillusioned or made up those points for the article… but as you must have seen, they did a brilliant job at the end ;-)

  9. January 8, 2010 9:07 am

    bravo bravo… u shud add this point: bongs always keep to their pride…and raise hell if challenged (like u blasted the reasons abve) and easiest to tease and poke fun at for general entertainment. ;)
    and despite all this: the 50 reasons are not presented by menfolk, no madam. Men generally get lost somewhere amid those big brown eyes….. (ahem)
    I always see women are women’s greatest enemy. :O. i guess the term applicable be misogyny, becoz the article was written by POULOMI BANERJEE AND MALINI BANERJEE..and i dnt think they are male :P

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 8, 2010 10:24 am

      Ahha.. coming from a fellow Bengali male, that statement about getting lost in her eyes must be true then ;-)

      But despite everything, the authors redeemed themselves a lot in their last point :-)

      • January 8, 2010 12:04 pm

        Hey that’s a salvar las apariencias gesture. After all they too are bengali women. People will start wondering if bengali women start bad – mouthing about themselves. Sabotaging or under-mining own folk is not a very pleasant idea.
        what you call last point redemption; i differ from that opinion. I really have no clue why women always try to figure out ways to stand out in the crowd. Women love seeking attention. (eg: U call urself the quintessential bengali lady :P ). Whatever they get isnt enough for them. Hence the last point and your blog post. :P

      • bappa permalink
        October 7, 2010 1:55 am

        hi, i rady make a friendship. r u agree?

  10. Rusha permalink
    January 8, 2010 10:30 am

    Simply Amazing!!!! I was chatting with Malini the other day about her article…I should make her read this!!!

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 8, 2010 8:59 pm

      Thanks :-) and I would love to hear the author’s take on my blog post :-)

  11. January 9, 2010 2:00 am

    some bengali women can make chotobhai take note and some bengali women tie two benunis and are too dull.

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 13, 2010 10:14 am

      “Some” is the key word, right?

  12. January 9, 2010 6:13 pm

    Each Bengali man and woman has their set of idiosyncrasies.
    They increase or decrease depending on the pressure they are under.
    Life has a strange way of balancing itself…where the woman is dominating,she finds a confident but quiet man.She knows when his man speaks up..it s time to take notice.Likewise,when the dominant woman goes quiet, the quiet husband knows it s time to take notice…..rest of the times both play their roles with effortless ease…

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 13, 2010 10:16 am

      I agree with you… and what you said is true for all women/ men, I believe…

  13. Trencher permalink
    January 11, 2010 1:35 am

    A good blog and normally a decent maturing writing style ruined by the frivolity of the approach.

    Graphiti articles don’t deserve responses as they are normally crap and this specific one sounded like those class V boy vs Girl fights.

    for a sensitive and matured writer like you, I am glad i read this only after reading the Blog-a-ton postwhich is a fine example of th fast maturing writing sensitivity of yours.

    Please don’t waste the time, talent and energy on responsing to such frivolous Graphiti articles.

  14. Abhishek Datta permalink
    January 11, 2010 7:52 pm

    Being a Bengali myself, I can truly appreciate the above piece of writing. Nice post.

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 13, 2010 10:13 am

      Thanks Abhisek, and keep visiting :-)

  15. Anusuya permalink
    January 15, 2010 11:40 pm

    Cheers to the bong women!we dont need to ve the pinjabi oomph or the south indian sensuality ,we ve the intellect and I bet most men wudn be able to handle such an intelligent better half,may be thats y they had like to keep away from the bengali bou!

    • debosmita permalink*
      January 16, 2010 10:54 am

      cheers to that! :-D u have spoken the perfect truth ;-)

  16. March 22, 2010 9:38 am

    my favorite post. ever!!

    Bengali girls are the best. Period.

  17. The Nerd permalink
    May 31, 2010 4:10 pm

    The girls can definitely benefit from some great role models. Being a Bengali, when I bought the book from Women of the Tagore Household by Chitra Deb it was simply due to the huge discount they were offering. It later dawned on me that the book addressed larger issues facing the women. The fact that the women of Tagore household were powerful and influential in their own way did not go unnoticed among the women of Bengal.

  18. Prasad permalink
    July 14, 2010 1:14 am

    Nice post again! Its enjoyable to read but something comes to my mind ..

    Stereotyping is a big disease among Indian racism. Even you fall into that category!!

    “Punjabi oomph which turns into layers of fat after 4 years of marriage and South Indian sensuality which gets lost in litres of coconut oil! ”

    You wrote something amazing in “I am, what I am”, but here you have wasted a lot of time I guess.

    • debosmita permalink*
      July 14, 2010 5:17 pm

      Hi, welcome! This is the most playful and non-serious post written by me and it has turned out to be the most read one! I agree with you on the Indian racism part and that even I indulged in the same – as I said, it was done in jest.

  19. July 23, 2010 1:02 am

    Loved this one :-)

    • debosmita permalink*
      July 23, 2010 9:47 pm

      All Bengali women who have read this loved this ;-) Thank you :-)

  20. sam permalink
    August 26, 2010 11:29 pm

    I have never seen or heard of a bengali woman who is not proud of her identity. All bengali women are proud of their cultural heritage. So the author of the original article is really wrong about the punjabi oomph and south indian sensuality bit. Punjabi women have no morals and spend about 99.99% of their time showing off and fibbing and stealing. South indian women are ugly coders with fake resumes. Are they even remotely appealing as the bengali woman. I am a punjabi man happily in love and married to a bengali woman. My wife is pretty, intelligent, smart and sauve. She has moral values and is proud of her heritage and does not try to be someone she is not.

    • debosmita permalink*
      February 23, 2011 2:37 pm

      Hey Sam,
      Well, I really can’t agree with you on the points made on Punjabi and South Indian women. I have friends from both communities and they are great and beautiful women! Please don’t take generalisation to such a height!

  21. Arpita Dirghangi permalink
    November 4, 2010 6:41 am

    Love this post! So glad to have been born a Bengali woman!

  22. Suman permalink
    December 22, 2010 1:43 am

    well.. I agree with some.. n not with many!.. but definitely not with ‘.. sensuality which gets lost in litres of coconut oil’.. Plz.. update ur geography.. kerela is not same as south India!!. otherwise good countering!..n loved the author’s signoff comments!!..

    Hey! No offence :-) This post was totally in jest and I myself, don’t believe in half of it.. and I perfectly know how beautiful some of the South Indian women can be (even beyond Bollywood) :-)

  23. rajiv permalink
    December 24, 2010 7:29 pm

    These are a few of the reasons for which amongst all the Indian women I love the bengali women the most.

  24. January 17, 2011 12:33 pm

    I agree to all the points made by u debosmita. . Except the one bout Maxi. . . Really those are so uncool. . . And taant sari is something that makes a bong babe hot as well as hard to get. . .

  25. hookedupforthosebengalistarliteyes permalink
    January 22, 2011 8:59 am

    so i met this girl 6 years ago and fell in love with her 3 years ago. told her that i want to marry her 2 years ago and she has given me such a tough time. she would yell at me NO one time and console me the next. but i know she loves me. :) she is the most beautiful woman on Earth. the most charming girl this universe has ever seen. and she knows how to make me recognize what her worth is. Bengali girls are THE BEST !!!!

  26. Abhishek permalink
    February 11, 2011 1:18 pm

    Nice read as usual :)
    How about a writeup on this?
    http://www.telegraphindia.com/1091004/jsp/calcutta/story_11572595.jsp

  27. February 22, 2011 1:43 pm

    Absolutely love your blog. Love your style of writing. Keep in touch !

  28. Sreyashi Bose permalink
    February 23, 2011 2:21 pm

    i came across your blog through nipon’s. have read quite a few of your articles, all of them really good..but this one absolutely takes the cake! brilliant..and your argument to point no 5 make me hold my tummy and laugh for quite a while! :D

    • debosmita permalink*
      February 23, 2011 2:40 pm

      Welcome!

      Thank you for dropping by :-) :-D

  29. Vichitra Amritavalli permalink
    February 28, 2011 3:26 pm

    Bengali women are beautiful secondary to Rajasthani women.
    Sikkim/Nepali women are next to Bengali beauties.
    Orissa women are raw in appearance.

  30. sonali permalink
    March 2, 2011 12:29 pm

    Super good posting and a fit response to that obnoxious article :-) I am so proud to be a bengali women :-) There is certainly something different about the bengali women and I realised it more because I lived most of my lives in places outside of West Bengal…

    And yes, not all beautiful bong women are to be found in bollywood… thats such an illogical statement… ridiculous!

    Walk into the media houses, advertising agencies or well known law firms of a country and check out the beautiful bengali women there… they are surely head turners. Proud to be a bengali woman and that too a lawyer :-)

  31. Nandita permalink
    March 6, 2011 10:35 am

    its just awsum..i need to send this link to my bf(he is a kannadiga)..he will definitely love it

  32. June 29, 2011 5:40 pm

    I wonder who wrote that article, he apparently doesn’t have taste enough to appreciate anyone beyond a Rakhi Sawant. Really….whats with the world these days…everyone thinks they are the sole fountain of public opinion.

    Great replies. Though I don’t agree with all of them (the mama’s boy part….out of pure denial). I have never seen a bengali woman not be proud of who she is and for good reason :)

    • debosmita permalink*
      June 29, 2011 5:49 pm

      Of all my posts in whole of my blog, you had to comment on the worst of them??? :-( This was written way back, as completely a fun post with absolutely no seriousness. Till date, it always shows on the side bar as one of the most popular ones :-(

      But then, you being a Bong man, of course will not agree to my replies ;-) ;-)

  33. July 8, 2011 12:30 am

    bong girls are pretty hardcore.. be careful before dating them.. first love her parents and then her.. she may never stop listening to them weather right or wrong.. eg.. petty things like he is not a Phd.. etc.. despite of excellent earning capacity.. and if you take time … eventually bong parents will win over you as far as she is concerned.. I loved the fact that a girl loves her parents and respects them.. .. but at the end .. being on a receving end (boyfriend) it hurts a lot.. .. you evalulate everything and learn that it boiled downs to this.. it hurts.. after 4 years.. girl changing her mind.. again this is subjective.. thanks for listening guys..

  34. July 8, 2011 12:33 am

    I am living with regret and i think will continue to live with this regret of having a bong girl for 4 years of my life and she is not around any more with me.. Devdas makes sense now.. Too pretty and hardcore to handle the “missing her” part…. :) guys..

  35. July 22, 2011 5:06 pm

    Haha, really nice.
    I love the way you’ve come out in defense of Bengali women. Not that there was any need for it anyway. Also, the article in the telegraph was pretty much non sense.

  36. Adelaide permalink
    August 18, 2011 3:53 pm

    Even I think the article was kind of biased, but one thing i accept and that is Bengali (and south Indian) women take pride when they are mistaken for Punjabis…I have come across many of them…mostly those who are conscious of their looks, appearance etc. But again, you can’t blame them. Indians put so much premium on beauty and complexion…intelligence generally has no meaning unless that intelligence is helping you earn money and lure the man with it…
    Adelaide

    • Indrani saha permalink
      October 18, 2011 3:41 pm

      wouldnt agree that bengali ladies are not beautiful….in fact i believe that the dusky doe eyed bengali lady is far prettier than the loud fair rough looking punjabi lady…..
      beauty and grace are the positives in a bengali lady.

      • ashima kashyap permalink
        January 21, 2014 3:27 pm

        The article in the Telegraph was stupid so is the response. So what did this article help you achieve? Making others believe that Bong women are intelligent and beautiful or making yourself believe it? I believe all women are beautiful and no “one sect of girls” is superior to the other. Punjabi, south indian, bongs, kashmiri, assamese.. Each of these women are beautiful in their own way. I fail to understand the concept “I am the best”.

  37. Sudipto Chakrabarty permalink
    September 25, 2011 2:49 am

    Bengali woman has much more culture inherited in them as against others. First of all they would never go for a second man if her husband is not able to give her much time. She might threaten him but never leave him, because she loves him and this love is not a modern love of lust, but a whole hearted love which has come out of her culture and tradition and which assures that she wants to be a life long partner of her husband.
    Secondly, as regards her mother in law, it is not the problem of the bride who come to her husbands house and face a new environment. Every mother-in-laws should understand that the bride has come to a new environment and it is the duty of the new family to accept her as she is. Both the bride and the mother in law, should sacrifice each others laws with which they used to govern the family before. But it is the mother in law who should sacrifice first because she has been old to the family and the new bride is just a new guest in the family. If she does not get the warmth of home in the new family is becomes very difficult for the new guest to survive.

  38. Indrani saha permalink
    October 18, 2011 3:37 pm

    absolutely loved ur article…and really agree to every thing u said…ive fwd ed this my hubby…..ha ha…lets see him talk now!

  39. October 19, 2011 12:57 pm

    I cant believe someone wrote a dumb article like this and got it printed!!!!! what the hell is media doing??? whoever wrote it doesn’t have an inch of brain, Debosmita your replies are awesome:)

    That was just a fun article for the Sunday Supplement…

  40. November 17, 2011 7:43 am

    I am not a Bengali, but your post made me envious to be one of them…truly lovable post…best wishes…go ahead!

  41. DEBALINA AICH ROY permalink
    December 1, 2011 9:10 pm

    i Like Debosmita`s reply

  42. Niloy permalink
    February 4, 2012 3:17 pm

    As a hardcore Bengali man myself I was deeply offended to read that article to which you are replying to. But I’m glad that you have provided such a strong and comprehensive rebuttal.

    Keep up the good work!

  43. May 21, 2012 10:22 pm

    HI
    I love your post I truly believe bengali women are really pretty however in your post i could’nt help noticing that you have quite a distaste of punjabi women i am punjabi and a woman i fail to understand that….are you J from us becuz we are not we truly appreciate you beauty

    • debosmita permalink*
      July 7, 2012 8:40 am

      I do not have any distaste for women of any other community! The post was only a fun take on the stereotypes all women face.

  44. bonnyathome permalink
    June 23, 2012 2:19 am

    The only thing this article proves is, at least the writer, if not all bengali women, is childishly bitchy.

    • debosmita permalink*
      July 7, 2012 8:39 am

      One can be either childish or bitchy.. but both together??!!!

  45. sulagna permalink
    August 6, 2012 7:33 pm

    anothr +ive trait of a Bengali woman….won’t evr sit back nd let ppl talk rubbish:D
    THUMBS UP ms.Debosmita!!

  46. dibyajyoti permalink
    August 15, 2012 9:34 am

    Who *@#&ing cares what telegraph has written. Its a newspaper and it has to find something to fill its columns whatever crap that may be. I can say about myself that i always admired adored and cherished bengali women and thank god, i am with one now. My girlfriend… :)

  47. Sanju permalink
    August 24, 2012 9:52 am

    I always found bengali women to be a bit sultry than women in other parts of south asia.

  48. August 25, 2012 7:06 pm

    I am new to bengal and let’s see what experience i can have in Bengal with Bengali gals….

    • Atrayee permalink
      April 17, 2013 3:51 pm

      You are so wrong … Higgs Boson …and your comment is so derogatory….

      • debosmita permalink*
        April 18, 2013 9:38 am

        Hi Atrayee, welcome to my blog. I removed the comment of Higgs Boson since it was extremely derogatory and made personal attacks.

  49. Namrata permalink
    October 14, 2012 5:04 pm

    hey!! loved your post! :)
    I believe all women are equally beautiful, but being a Bengali myself, i cannot help it but be a little partial towards Bengali women..
    and the language just adds to her sweetness! :)

  50. Adi permalink
    November 8, 2012 4:19 pm

    Bengali women are the most beautiful women in the country! Perfect combination of beauty and brains!!! Sadly same can’t be said about bengali men :(

    • Intelligent Bengal dumb India permalink
      January 24, 2013 8:07 pm

      Since the day of Renaissance it was the men which produced more than 95% intellectuals.Starting with Rammohan Ray all best reformers,literary icon,scientist/inventor,Economist,Musician all were Bengali(male).

      Asia’s greatest literary icon-Tagore
      Asia’s greatest Physicist_Satyendra Bose whose work has already produced 10 Nobel winners.
      Inventor and Polymath SIR J.C Bose-One of 3 IEEE milestone winner.
      Asia’s only Economist Nobel laureate_A.Sen
      World’s highest scientific award winner-Ashoke Sen who won inaugural Yuri Milner prize.
      IVF pioneer-Subhas Mukhopadhya who missed 2010 Nobel due to his tragic death in 1981.
      Musician Ravishankar-According to George Harrison of Beatles he was the godfather of world music.
      Satyajit Ray-One of top 10 greatest director.in film history.
      Swami Vivekananda-The man who connected east and west and influenced luminaries like greatest inventor of all time Nikola Tesla,Legendary Russian poet Tolostoy etc.

      there are other famous inventors such as Amar Bose,Mani Bhowmick,Raja Basu and many more.

      But I know you are not any Bengali but a low IQ dumb jealous Indian or Paki scum…

      By the way Indian Iq is somewhere around mid 80′s while Bengali Hindu and Anglo community of Kolkata has already achieved more than many first world cities.

      Read this one-India-a country of gypsis and jew

      Or-Indian/chinese Iq puzzle

      also read this book-IQ and wealth of nation-poor Iq of Indian people state the pathetic scenario of our country…But Bengali as a hole are not smart but only Brahmin/Baidyy-Brahmin,Baidya and some elite Kaystha are smart.Muslim are very backward and have extremely poor literacy about 60-65%.

      Also from my observations Chinese,white,Jew are smarter than Bengali as a whole but those elite class probably have got similar IQ comparable to white.Also apart from literature and art no Bengali women have done anything significant yet but Anita Sengupta(who landed on Mars with Curiosity) has probably broken the barrier.Also Sharmila Bhattacharya is the current head of Nasa’s Biological dept.

    • Sunny Mittal permalink
      July 6, 2013 12:08 am

      So Bengali girls don’t like Bengali boys/men but non Bengali men admire Bengali women more than your Bengali counterpart.But again they consider themselves superior race as I found on that blog posted by the above poster(Indian/Chinese IQ puzzle).Your Bengali boys are busy with their carrier and may be they just want to remain life long bachelor.as they were talking about there.

      But Bengali women are certainly more charming compared to many other communities.

  51. Rajeswari permalink
    November 23, 2012 11:08 pm

    Debosmita u missed 1 thing.. Bengali girls can adjust in any n every situation.. any Italian, American,English, GErman, AUstralian and any community person can easily live wd a bengali… Through our sarees,sakha pola, we treasure our assets of intelligence, compassion and eternal mystery dt never fades ws time.. I being a bong n a sultry lookin female never felt d dearth of guys.. Believe me u all Bengali girls r respected more than anythn else in ds WORLD!!! AND NOW DT I M DATING A BONG CANT FEEL BETTER!!

  52. mel permalink
    January 4, 2013 2:26 pm

    2 articles that weren’t bad. I’m not Indian myself…but I’ve heard about the ‘dominating’ factor as such. The above says something like…’if you’re not man enough, then she will dominate you’…or something like that. Which brings the point…why would a wise Bengali woman pick a man with weak character in the first place? Also, there seems to be a lot of ‘wants’ or ‘should haves’ that I detect here. Perhaps the 2 people within the marriage should just work together to make their relationship work. Otherwise, both should have stayed in the kindergarten

  53. nikhil permalink
    January 17, 2013 11:03 pm

    wht abou pappa’s little girl????
    hehehehehe

  54. Gouri permalink
    February 14, 2013 4:57 am

    Fantastic post, I concur wholeheartedly. Also, although Bengali women are quintessentially traditional they are dynamic enough to acclimate to and thrive in the modern world. Which, if I may remark, is imperative in a world where ones virtues may be sold to the highest bidder. Additionally, huzzah for Bengali Lawyers, I’m starting first year soon.

  55. February 14, 2013 10:10 pm

    I LOVE my feisty soon-to-be Bengali sister in law. She is the first woman to be able to keep up with (quick wit) and tame- a bit my amazing brother. Great article.

  56. Atrayee permalink
    April 17, 2013 3:57 pm

    This is an amazing article ….. I loved every bit of it… I am a bengali too … and feel proud of the fact that m a bengali woman……

  57. Atrayee permalink
    April 17, 2013 5:02 pm

    Many a times people mistake me as a punjabi because of my height ( I am five feet nine inches tall) …and seriously I hate it……. the intellect and sensuality that a bengali woman oozes …. i doubt whether a punjabi chick would even have one fourth of it….
    I personally dont like when people tell me that i look like a punjabi

    • July 15, 2013 6:10 pm

      I am 6’1″ and no one mistakes me for a panjabi :-(

  58. amit permalink
    April 26, 2013 10:34 pm

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  60. Arnab permalink
    June 23, 2013 12:25 am

    Points are good but not totally convinced.

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  63. Shovan permalink
    July 13, 2013 9:24 pm

    The ‘fifty reasons’ article was meant for women like you to understand what a man really wants from a woman. It’s perfectly ok to expect a man to respect and understand you, but you should probably do the same. Try dropping the big ‘women’s empowerment’ issue for a change. We are human beings with feelings and emotions and not just ‘MEN’ meant to be bashed at the drop of a hat. For once give yourself a chance to know how we truly feel without complaining…

    I am a software architect unfortunate enough to be married to a bengali woman.

  64. July 18, 2013 12:16 pm

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  65. July 19, 2013 9:56 pm

    Wow! Superb! Loved reading every word of this excellent defence. In my view every sane and mature Bengali men and all Bengali women will agree with your logical and forceful presentation of facts. Ekebare jake chokhe aangul diye dekhanor moto! Khub bhalo laglo.

    Just one thing, I wanted to add. Bengali women in sankha, pola and sindur is common in all circles but not in mangalsutra and chuda. These may be occasional add on, for the domino’s generation, though. And off course the writer, who cited 50 reasons for why one should not marry a Bengali woman, did not care to notice the diminishing quantity of sindur from our grandma’s time to our ma-masi-piisi’s time, and has steadied through today’s women, but still it is worn in a distinct style by a Bengali woman as opposed to a thin pencil drawn line as has become fashionable in so called sense. This shows Bengali women are capable of making a distinct style statement that stands apart in the crowd even with ‘Eek Chutki Sindur’. As a probasi Bengali I never failed to notice this (including the Bengali women’s grace in tangail, dhonekhali, baluchari, dakai that without much look so chic or elegant)

    Also, I agree with one of the commenters that we should desist making generic statements like ……. layers of flab for Punjabi women and … lost in litres of coconut oil for women of Kerala etc. not just as the customs and culture have evolved everywhere and the subject has always been so very nuanced and complex, that even within a state and ethnic/ linguistic groups there would be so much variation (like for Bengali – probashi and local, eparer oparer or ghoti -bangal, urban-rural, income group wise variation, religion wise variation etc.). But I think for challenging the absurd comparison, the blogger had to tow this line.

    Kudos again!

  66. July 19, 2013 10:19 pm

    The moot point remains: Bengali women embodies beauty, style, compassion, courage, adaptability and brain, which are all directly proportionate to their level of education and success in their lives. In other words, a highly educated and successful Bengali woman is most attractive of all and hence the most desirable woman for an intelligent (Bengali or non Bengali) man as friend or life partner.

  67. Adrita Hazra permalink
    September 14, 2013 1:23 pm

    Thank you for the loud punch to the blog ! whatever you wrote was absolutely true and this made me more proud to be a bengali !! oh yes bengali’s are talented, graceful, beautiful and cultured “Cheers” !!!!! :)

  68. S.Pandey permalink
    October 20, 2013 3:41 pm

    There is a proverb in English when people have very low achievements they try to dissipate their inferiority by calling them best.

    I think some Bengali men from specific community can claim them as best due to their achievements.

  69. November 28, 2013 1:46 pm

    cheers !!!! liked it a lot !!!

  70. November 28, 2013 3:06 pm

    Really a beautifully crafted post, never could be better tribute to bengali women than this. nice work keep it up! :)

  71. tumpa permalink
    November 28, 2013 4:32 pm

    BRAVO…perfect comebacks. LOVED UR POST. This proves how smart bengali women are. Most of the points are absurd. Only a blind person can question a bengali woman’s oomph factor.

  72. Indrani permalink
    November 28, 2013 5:23 pm

    Nice article although i have to agree that typical Calcatian girls are pain the a$$ with all their nekami ..lol

  73. swarnika permalink
    November 28, 2013 9:24 pm

    awesome!!

  74. arun permalink
    November 29, 2013 11:46 am

    Nice to read your writing but your content is mostly conencentreted with the typical kolkata higher middle class & affulant family the conditions of the middle class & the village are much different (which consists of most of bengal). I belive the strong outcome of the bengali women is due to the family bonding, the love they have inside their heart may be some times you cn’t trace it quickly but it flows like the desert river undernith.you can find this reflection in whatever they do so whatever field they choose the outcome is the best.all the best to all the bengali womens & thanks for having such a beautiful heart.

  75. Debasish permalink
    November 30, 2013 1:31 pm

    That is a wonderful response to a crap of an article in the first place. Bengali men are not to be taken granted as stupids who will swear by that article, they would rather lap up your response. good job!

    • Rick Feynman permalink
      December 4, 2013 2:36 pm

      You are an idiot.Read this blog-Indian/Chinese IQ puzzle.Bengali Brahmin guys proved they are the smartest race in the planet.IQ-122(higher than Ashkenazi Jewish like us.)

  76. T.Sekhar permalink
    December 16, 2013 11:52 pm

    One thing I never understood is that, if bong men & women are superlative achievers & truly
    exemplify good looks, then why this obsession with marrying men & women outside their community.The problem is that, Bong men consider their women as domineering & controlling bitches, to be shunned at all cost & bong women consider their men NOT masculine, tough or man enough. That unfortunately happens to be the flip side of bengali
    matriarchal culture.Patriarchy rebounds back when bong men seek submissive women from other cultures & bengali women seek dominating & hardy men from other cultures.

    That in a way sounds the death knell of matriarchal culture or society.

  77. Mahi permalink
    April 29, 2014 11:20 pm

    thank u soo much for such a defending and awesm article… felt awesm… actually its nuthng jus shows how jealous these men or women are… poor soul… god bless dm…. proud to b a bengali.. (Y)

  78. Yolo permalink
    May 1, 2014 7:20 pm

    I think the blog about ’50 reasons for not marrying bengali women’ was meant to bereave the bengali women of all the unwanted attention they got from perverts of other communities.As for the bengalis marrying outside their community, its because they are more educated than most of the other communities and thus are spread throughout india. Thus the intermingling occurs + the % of bengali men marrying outside community = % of bengali women marrying outside community

  79. May 6, 2014 6:13 pm

    a very good one hilarious but true. The most dominating problem is people think bengali girl is always good in sex, but it depends as she has many other ideas constantly thronging her mind other than engaging in this useless stuff desired by most men

  80. Atrayee permalink
    April 17, 2013 3:55 pm

    No Mr. Higgs Boson …subroto roy sahara is from the state of uttar radesh…he is a billionaire businessman and is a bengali……. not from calcutta….check your iq before commenting …

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